Growing up on the cusp of the Mason-Dixon line in West Virginia, my future mother-in-law Marcia gave me the idea to share stories of northerner’s reactions to southern food. A few southern foods that baffled her when she first moved here were Nabs, hamburger steak and stewed taters.
“When I first moved down to North Carolina I would pack my lunch to take with me to work. Around lunch time people would start asking each other ‘whatcha havin’ for lunch?’ I would usually tell them whatever leftovers from the night before I had brought. I got some strange looks for sure.
They would tell me ‘I’ll just grab a pack of Nabs and a coke-cola.’ I couldn’t figure out what Nabs were and didn’t wish to appear stupid so I would just watch to see what they were eating. I was puzzled when I saw that they were getting a pack of cheese sandwich crackers out of the machine,” Marcia explained.
“Then there was the time a woman from work invited me and the boys to her house for supper. She said she was fixing hamburger steak and what did I like with it. Again what was hamburger steak? I knew it had to be some type of beef and I told her ‘Oh, whatever you feel like fixing.’ She suggested creamed potatoes. I let her know that I loved creamed potatoes especially with peas. Well we got a fried hamburger, mashed potatoes and a side of peas. And this was the first time that I found out that southerners consider mac and cheese a suitable side with mashed potatoes and on some menus it is actually listed under the vegetable sides. And then there was stewed taters. Huh? From the best I can figure out it was boiled potatoes in their water with butter and salt and pepper. I kept saying ‘so you ate boiled potatoes’ and she kept saying ‘no stewed taters.’”
Though now living back above the Mason-Dixon line, Marcia said she still has a fondness for the South.
“Many things I have learned to love about the South and especially the people. Grits, greens, BBQ, and the best biscuits. The people are warm, generous, giving, friendly, and best of all they share their food.”
Other friends from near and far also shared some of their stories with me about southern foods they love or hate.
Topping the list of southern delicacies that some of our northern comrades quickly rejected was boiled peanuts. I myself am quite fond of those salty delicious morsels, but that wasn’t always the case. I remember as a child going to South Carolina every summer for vacation. We always stopped for boiled peanuts along the way. My Mamma would shell the peanuts and feed them to my dad as he was driving. All the while, Mamma was muttering her disgust over the “mushy, slimy” peanuts. When asked if I wanted to one, I declined after hearing them pronounced mushy and disgusting. I was a college student before I ever tried them. While at the open air market in Charleston, a man on the street was selling boiled peanuts. He sang a song for us so we felt inclined to buy his wares and I discovered that I actually liked them!
Carrie and Shelly, my soon-to-be cousins-in-law, were raised in Pennsylvania and they call boiled peanuts gross.
Grits are another southern tradition that bring frowns of disgust to some northern faces.
“Taste, texture, everything about them, makes me gag,” said Shelly.
Not to brag, (Ok, I’m bragging!) but my fiancé makes the absolute best grits ever. I’m convinced even non-grit eaters would like them if they tried it. He makes deliciously creamy garlic Parmesan grits which are a perfect compliment to roast or other hearty beef recipes. As a southerner I confess to getting in the rut of always serving creamed potatoes as a starch, but this is a great alternative.
During this discussion of southern versus northern food, my sorority sister Derrika pointed out that being raised in the south also doesn’t mean you grew up eating traditional southern foods. Her husband was raised in Goldsboro, but his mother was from New York and his father from England. She said to this day, her husband still won’t eat grits. Derrika said she has gotten some funny reactions over the years from her in-laws when they learned of the foods her southern family from Wilson was fond of eating.
“My husband’s grandma (from New York) once put her finger pretty much on my collards, turned up her nose, and asked ‘what’s that,’” Derrika said. “My aunt owns a restaurant so there were definitely faces when we mentioned pig feet and chitterlings (or chitlins). I once was so happy to get a ham hock and my husband just looked at me with horror. None of them fully understand what an oxtail is. Whenever I mention any non-conventional pig parts that my super country grandparents have eaten, there are wide eyes all around. Examples include pig tails and ears.”
Though not necessarily common dishes here in Yadkin County, Cajun cuisine made the list of southern foods that folks up north have taken a liking to.
Shelly said boiled crawfish and crawfish etouffee were some of her favorites. Phyllis, another of my sorority sisters, from Cincinnati, Ohio, said she loves Cajun food. She visited New Orleans in 2004 where she had the opportunity to try gator meat.
“That was really different,” Phyllis said. “I’m willing to try almost anything once.”
One of my personal favorite Cajun recipes is jambalaya. My good friend Judy often brings this dish to pot lucks. She was gracious enough to pass along her recipe which came from one of her dearest friends Pam.
I received many, many more comments from folks about southern foods that are beloved or detested, but I will save those for another story and leave you today with Morgan’s Parmesan cheese grits recipe and Pam’s jambalaya recipe.
Morgan’s Parmesan garlic grits (guaranteed to convert grit-haters!)
• 2 cups whole milk
• 2 cups heavy cream
• 1 cup coarse stone-ground grits
• 1 tsp. kosher salt
• 2 to 3 garlic cloves minced
• 4 oz. Parmesan cheese (Highly recommend to use an actual block of Parmesan cheese, definitely avoid the kind in the green can.)
In a saucepan combine milk, cream, minced, garlic and salt and heat. Do not boil! Once mixture is hot, add grits and stir constantly until thickened. When the grits have thickened, slowly add in the freshly grated cheese. Keep stirring. Grits should be a thick, creamy consistency. Season with salt and pepper to taste. Morgan says the amount of cheese can be increased to taste if preferred, but he normally uses around 4 oz. This makes four servings.
Pam’s Easy Chicken and Sausage Jambalaya
• 1 lb. smoked sausage, cut in chunks
• ½ lb. boneless skinless chicken, cut in pieces
• 2 cans French Onion soup
• 1 can chicken broth
• 1 lb. (one box) Uncle Ben’s converted rice
• ½ package Seasoning Blend (frozen veggie section, has onion, green pepper, red pepper, etc. — or just chop up what you need (1 onion, ½ green pepper, ½ red pepper)
• 1 stick butter
• Creole seasoning to taste (Tony Cachere’s, Zatarain’s, etc.)
Preheat oven to 375 degrees. Chop all meat into bite-sized pieces. In a 13 x 9 pan, mix everything except butter. Stir to blend. DO NOT PRECOOK ANYTHING. Dot with butter. Cover and cook for one hour. Take a nap. Tell your family to leave you alone because you are fixing supper. Uncover and stir. Serve with a green salad, hot French bread, and you’ve got a fabulous meal!